“When you take the time to be what you need to be for yourself, you will have more of you for everyone and everything else.” -Shirley Owens
Are you always sacrificing your needs for everyone and everything? While doing it makes others happy, it can be unhealthy for you. Taking the time for yourself is an essential factor in getting what you want. You don’t need to take much time; you just have to own it and make it YOUR time. Listen in as Shirley reflects on how to have guilt-free “me-time”.
Highlights:
00:43 Who You Need To Be For YOU
03:00 What Do YOU Need?
Tweets:
When did you last take the time to be what you need to be for yourself? Listen in as @SfbaldwinOwens shares how to have a no-guilt “me-time”!
Quotes:
03:20 “When you take the time to be what you need to be for yourself, you will have more of you for everyone and everything else.” -Shirley Owens
Connect With Angela:
Angela Marshall is a Motivational Presenter, Best-Selling Author, Creative Content Consultant, ex-NFL wife, and business owner of In Other Words, By Stone. Also known as Author Stone, Angela is a positive words powerhouse that utilizes her personal life experiences of struggle, strength, and success to captivate audiences and readers abroad. Angela is also a community advocate, youth mentor, and supporter. She resigned from 20 years in the corporate world to embrace the purpose that has pursued her throughout her life to be unmasked, unchained, and untamed. She struggled through a lavish but sorely lacking lifestyle as a former NFL wife. That chapter in her life produced the transparency in her inspiring, inquiring autobiography, Reality to Rags to Riches- The Story and Life of an Ex-NFL Wife. Angela is also a featured author in the Women Who Lead Anthology that chronicles successful women across the globe.
Transcriptions
Shirley Owens: Hello and welcome back. I'm reflecting today on my conversation with Angela Marshall. Something that came up for me during that episode was too often we are so worried about what we need to be for others that we forget what we need to be for ourselves, and this subject comes up in so many ways, some way, shape or form with every single client I have, and I know that it's also something I for sure do. I want to make sure that I'm the wife my husband needs, the mother my kids need, the mimi my grandbabies need, the daughter, the sibling, the friend, the coach, the speaker, and on and on. I'm always trying to be the best that I need to be for everyone else. But rarely do I stop and think about what do I need to be the best for myself.
So a couple of weeks ago, my husband was working really late, the kids were settled in and I decided to go to my room at 7:00 PM and I didn't allow myself to do anything for anyone else. And it actually took a little bit of thought to try to figure out what I wanted to do for me. So I took a long bath. I did my first ever one of those face masks that you get in gift bags. I have a bunch of them laying around, but I've never done them. And then I laid on my bed, Senna Marco Polo to my mom in law and to some of my friends. I basically just did whatever I wanted for a couple of hours and it was so nice. I literally had to fight back the guilt that I was just treating myself to a quiet night of doing what I wanted to do. And I realized that I don't remember the last time I had done that, like it had been years, if not longer. The other thing I realized is that the longer you go without doing what you need to do for you, the more drastic the feeling is when you do it and even the harder it is to do. There may even be resentment towards others and even towards yourself for not allowing yourself to do it. It doesn't have to be expensive or take a bunch of hours, it just has to be yours.
“When you take the time to be what you need to be for yourself, you will have more of you for everyone and everything else.” -Shirley Owens
So this week, I would have you take a look inside your soul. What is it that you are needing, especially during this time of less distractions and quarantining? What can you do for yourself to fulfill that space? I promise, when you take that time to be what you need to be for yourself, you will have more of you for everyone and everything else. You will feel happier, you will feel more peaceful and you will have more energy to face whatever's ahead. I love you all so much. I'm so grateful for you. Thank you so much for listening. And I will see you next week.
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